I found the dad guide incredibly useful, and am happy for it, but it made me realize something about our first kid and our early relationship. I don’t feel like we had that “bonding” moment, so I don’t think I had a strong engaged feeling since I couldn’t really help with feedings and things. I didn’t really feel like I could help and was game to just wait until it was a bit more clear a bit later on. The dad guide showed me all the things I could have done to help from day one and to that the bond takes time to build, like any relationship. I guess in the moment it’s hard to see. It’s a funny feeling to have because having the information has created a strong bond with our second kid, but I wish I’d known for my first. I think the lesson is that no one should have to miss out on the experiences of the first year just because they didn’t know the questions to ask. I’m glad Fantastic Dads is trying to solve this problem.